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What can readers expect from romantic love? Stephen A. Mitchell revitalizes readers dreams, while recognizing the pitfalls they face, in this groundbreaking examination of the major components of romantic love--sex, idealization, aggression, self-pity, guilt, and commitment.224 pp.
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《出版社週刊》(Publisher's Weekly)評論
When New York University professor and popular psychoanalysis theorist Mitchell died in December 2000, he left behind a robust body of work that made Freudian theories accessible to all. It's not surprising, then, that this postmortem work should have broad appeal. A combination of clinical case studies, psychoanalytical thought and practical advice, Mitchell's riff on the fragility and necessity of romantic love is written with warmth and intelligence. He manages to simplify some of Freud's most complex theories and give them new significance for those who wonder why love is often a battlefield. Real-life examples, taken from his practice, are an invaluable addition. In a section on guilt, for example, he briefly describes how Freud considered the emotion to be "the linchpin of our ascent from the bestial to the civilized," then brings in the work of Viennese-born analyst Melanie Klein and concludes with the story of "Will," whose tendency toward feeling guilty created havoc with his romantic relationships. By mixing the case study method, so common in self-help books, with scholarly insight, Mitchell creates a work on romance that is rich and multilayered, giving the individual stories more weight and the intellectual commentary more humanity. In his conclusion, Mitchell writes like a loving father penning a wedding day message to his child, gently advising that romance isn't about "a labored struggle to contrive novelty," but instead about tolerance and understanding. It's common advice, but given the rest of the work's depth, humor and rigor, these familiar words take on new, and much welcomed, meaning. (Feb. 14) Forecast: Mitchell was always adept at user-friendly writing, and this work follows in that tradition. Can Love Last? would do well on its own merit, and the Valentine's Day pub date should push sales further. (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved
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Published posthumously, this book argues that romance does not diminish in long-term relationships but instead becomes increasingly dangerous, a contention that requires a careful analysis of the many paradoxical situations surrounding love and romance. According to Mitchell, people want both dependability and surprise, safety and adventure, reality and fantasy, surrender and control. He explores these paradoxes as he reverses common questions concerning romance (e.g., "Why does the woman who loves her steady and dependable husband feel sexual excitement only in transient situations with threatening men?") to ask other intriguing questions (e.g., "How is it that in his or her primary relationship this man or woman manages to feel so safe?"). He argues that romantic passion generates the need for continuity and security that, if taken too seriously, destroys the freedom and spontaneity that was the very foundation for the passion in the first place. One longs for certainty and safety to protect love, and thus seeks stability and permanence rather than adventure and excitement. The book makes wonderful use of illustrations from the author's private practice and from psychoanalytic theory, current films, and music lyrics to articulate the argument. Highly recommended for readers at all levels. R. B. Stewart Jr. Oakland University
《圖書館雜誌》(Library Journal )書評
This rather dry academic treatise on romantic love was written by a well-regarded clinician and supervising analyst at the William Alanson White Institute. Mitchell, who died in 2000, was the author of several books including Freud and Beyond, which he wrote with his wife Margaret Black. Popular culture would have us believe that the combination of romance and true lasting love is an oxymoron. Mitchell examines the tension between the ideas of love and romance, and shows how sexuality, illusion, aggression, guilt, control, and commitment interact to contribute to this tension. He also describes the different risks involved in both stable and new love. While drawing heavily on Freud, he examines romance and love from many different psychoanalytic viewpoints. Cases from his practice are described to illustrate his discussion. The scenario of the cocktail party toward the end of the book is especially clear in conveying different theories of consciousness. Recommended for academic and large public libraries. Margaret Cardwell, Christian Brothers Univ. Lib., Memphis (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.